The Stories of Middle Children (What is Middle Child Syndrome?)
Sunday, April 27th, 2008
Lorin Joy is a middle child, had older brothers and sister and younger sister and she always got picked on, especially during their younger years. It was them against her, but now that they are older. Lorin Joy is the one they all come to. During the most difficult times when her mother suffered from cancer, she is the one who stood by her the most and gave the care that nothing, even money could compare with.
Same goes with Ricky. He had many stories on how he felt left out because he’s neither the youngest nor the oldest. Sometimes this leads him to feel ignored; he strived hard to support his education, and strived harder to have a good job. Now that his financially stable, instead of feeling resentment for what he had endured, he would happily support the needs of his family, reasoning out that “If it’s the only way to make them smile at me, I would gladly give more to them.”
True stories of two middle children I knew… What is Middle Child Syndrome? How did Middle Child Syndrome affected them?
According to some research:
The middle or second born child or children often have the sense of not belonging. They fight to receive attention from parents and others because they feel many times they are being ignored or dubbed off as being the same as another sibling. Being in the middle, a child can feel insecure. The middle child often lacks drive and looks for direction from the first born child. Sometimes a middle child feels out of place because they are not over achievers and like to go with the flow of things. (click to continue reading)
We might as well say that Middle Child Syndrome, is a by-product of “favoritism”. Personally, in as much as the cases presented above are difficult to avoid in a normal setting of a family, the responsibility would still be on both parents, on how they would raise their children. And the middle children themselves, Lorin Joy and Ricky are both middle children but despite of that they have overcome the Middle Child Syndrome, they become responsible adult and most of all they didn’t allowed their painful experiences affect the way they should behave towards their family.
Sometimes, questions like why mom and dad didn’t made the effort for me to have graduation pictures during my high school? (for souvenir
). Or, why was I the one who should always do the household chores before? But nevertheless these questions are now source of funny stories rather than a cause of sadness.
And that makes me even more proud to be a friend of these two wonderful persons.
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